It’s the end of fall, it’s the fourth quarter, you’re not where you want to be in your business or you’re worried about the state of the economy and that affects you and everything that you do. How do you get people to pick your product or service and buy from you? What’s the magic formula to make that happen? The answer may surprise you in its simplicity; the answer is you. You’re the reason why people would want to do business with you, you’re the secret weapon. In order to become more successful you need to become more attractive. There must be something about you or about your product that makes people want to do business with you. People will buy from you for two reasons: they like you, which means they are attracted to you or they like your product or service, which means they’re attracted to it. The following steps are very important in your journey to becoming more attractive.
1- Always be excited. Now I’m not talking about jumping up and down the couch excited, I’m talking about being genuinely excited about all you are and where you are in your life. Being excited has to do with how you feel when you get up in the morning, how you deal with things when they happen to you. I’m sure you realize by now that life will happen to you no matter what you do or don’t do. How do you respond when life happens? Do you let it beat you down? Do you get upset? Do you lash out at other people when things don’t go the way you want? What do you do and how do you do it? The right thing for you to do would be to remember where you going, remember why you’re doing what you’re doing, stay positive and excited about what’s happening in your life. Understand that all of those challenges you’re facing, that you get upset about because they’re not happening the way you want, all of those are tests that you must pass in order to get the next level. Think of it like playing video games, when you play video games, you don’t get from one phase to the other without any challenges, you always have something coming at you trying to destroy you or take you down, beat you up or eat you up. In order to get the next level you must pass the challenge, you must sidestep the obstacle, avoid getting taken down or eaten up. That’s the only way you make it. The same thing happens in business and in life. You must get through whatever challenge or obstacle is being presented in order to make it the next level and staying excited helps you do that with ease.
2- Stop making excuses. One of the most important keys about staying positive and be an attractive is refusing to look for reasons not to do something. Many people think that just avoiding negative is enough but it’s actually not. Actively pursuing positives must be part of what you do on a daily basis. You may have heard this before: life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it. It’s absolutely true. We’re all going to go through challenges; we’re all going to experience things at different times of our lives. Some of them are going to be small; others are going to seem insurmountable. How you respond to it is going to determine how quickly you get out of it and how attractive you remain to others. Nothing speaks volumes about your character more than how you handle a challenge when it’s something really bad. When people watch you and they see how you respond when something doesn’t go well, that makes them determine whether not they ever want to be around you at all. One of the lessons I learned from my military service is how to depend on other people to help you get to where you want to go. I learned quickly that my buddy in the foxhole next to me is just as responsible for my life as I am and that I am also just as responsible for his life as he is. I realized that if we don’t trust and move forward, we can kill both of us. Make the best out of any situation that arises and don’t make excuses for what doesn’t happen because you won’t get a second chance to do things right.
3- Always be up about life. You can see life as a painful experience or you can see life as a beautiful experience, the choice is up to you. You have to make a decision to see life as a positive experience and always be up about life. You need to really look at things for what they are. No matter how bad they seem, no matter how horrendous the situation may look, I promise you they’re not as bad as you think and they’re probably a lot better than you want to realize. It’s up to you to look for the good thing there. Now I know I make this sound easy, but I understand it’s not. It’s human nature to worry and be concerned with things because we want to control our environment but when we relinquish that control and trust the process, we realized that it’s much easier to find the good in the situation. Understand that success doesn’t come overnight. If it did, everyone would be in business. When we trust the process, we know that it will come in due time. If we remain positive about it, the changes will come much faster than we realize.
4- Make a total commitment. Everyone wants to win at something; we want to win at life, family, business and everything that we do. We start doing what we need to do to win until we get stuck, things get tough or no longer fun, easy or simple, at which point we start looking for a reason why we shouldn’t do it anymore or we start finding an excuse why things aren’t happening. The only reason this happens, is because we never made a total commitment to accomplish whatever it was that we set out to do. If you’re serious about having success in life or business you must make a total commitment. If you’re not serious, keep doing what you’re doing and you’ll keep getting the same results that you’re getting right now. When we’re clear about what we want in life, we must be willing to do whatever it takes for however long it takes until we get it. When we make a total commitment, will realize that things don’t happen overnight, because we’re committed, we never give up until they do. Understand that there’s no such thing as an overnight success. Most people that we believe are overnight successes are 5, 10, 15 or 20 years in the making. Whether they were in the same field before or not, their life experiences prepared them for where they’re at now. To be where they are, to have what they have, we must be willing to go through all of their experiences good and bad. When we make a total commitment, there are no other options. We burn bridges. Why must we do that? Simple; when we have another option we never fully commit because if things don’t work out, we can always go somewhere else. When were cut off from anything else, we have no choice but to make it work. We come out fighting, swinging and doing whatever we must to get the job done.
5- Treat people well. Follow the golden rule; treat people just like we’d want to be treated. This simple yet overlooked rule can make a big difference in how attractive we are to others. Whatever we want from others, we must be willing to give first. If we want respect, give it. If we want patience, give it. If we want commitment, give it. Give the love, praise, cheer and good things, do it because it’s the right thing to do and don’t expect anything in return. When we give of ourselves genuinely, people will come out of the woodworks to help. We are all attracted to people that are real and genuine.
These simple rules if we apply them in our lives will make an incredible impact on how other people see us. We can be normal and blend in like everyone else or we can be exceptional and stand out from the crowd. I choose to be exceptional, what about you?
Lyonel
